Category: Marriage

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EASY WAYS TO LOVE YOUR SPOUSE!

Want a few bite-sized ideas to TAKE YOUR MARRIAGE to the next level?

1. This week, write down 3 things you appreciate about your spouse. Now, tell them! Your won’t believe how much it builds up your better half!  I am absolutely convinced we can all learn to be encouragers in our marriages.  It’s just like learning a language. Do this every week until it becomes a habit. (You could start with a dramatic, “You are the wind in my sails” or it can be the more casual, “Nobody makes bacon like you!” )

2. Train yourself to say, “THANK YOU” 3 times a day for any show of affection. For some, an act of kindness can be fancy flowers, walking the dog, or the way that spouse makes you feel cared for. For others, it’s the ultimate act of mercy -the diaper change. (#stagesoflife👍🏼) 

3. Build gratitude, cultivate kindness, & enjoy your most important person!

Photo by the oh-so-gifted Ashley Monogue!

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The Preacher’s Wife

Sisters in Christ,

I hear from many of you about your current calling from God -that of being a Pastor’s Wife.  People will  ask you, “What’s it like to be the Pastor’s wife?” For me, these 3 things keep me focused! 

Identity Issue

Because we are  Children of the King, evangelism and discipleship are the languages we speak. Exhibiting love for others and conducting ourselves in a way that honors the character of Jesus.   We are missionaries first! There is no question we all have different spiritual GIFTS…some to give, some to serve, and some to teach. How glorious that Paul teaches that we are ALL to pray and  ALL to love!! Now, we get to add to our circles of influence through chats on marriage, children, and sharing our struggles!  WHEN WE WALK WITH GOD, we will love, lead, and impact well. 

Heart Honesty

We must ask ourselves, “”Do I find my significance in BEING a Pastor’s Wife?” or “Do I find my significance in BEING a “Daughter of the King”  whose value to the Kingdom is insurmountable? He will show you your heart’s motivation and give you power over insecurity and power over pride!

Only YOU can be you

You are called to be a “helpmate” to your husband and his calling as a pastor (loving the congregation pro-actively and serving where needed)….most importantly, to LOVE him.  He is your #1 ministry. If God gave you children (one of the ultimate gifts!) then this is your #2 priority. As my wise husband says, “Only you can be their mommy.” I want to look back and say “I gave them my “all” in the context of a healthy marriage example and love for Jesus!”

He has made you for this!  He will fill your heart with strength and joy !

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Want Some Summer Marriage Improvement?

Happy summer!! This is a re-post because it’s a place we all need encouragement & focus!! This is a guarantee jump-start to loving your spouse well!! READY?

Many of us read a marriage book & then come away feeling overwhelmed. Want a few bite-sized ideas that keep your marriage growing? 1. Starting this week, write down 3 things you appreciate about your husband & share these with him. Do this every week for a month -you are creating a habit of encouragement that will completely change the atmosphere of your marriage! Bless him by building him up.
2. Does your man have a hobby or sport that he likes and well, you not so much? 😜Learn about it-you’ll bless him & you might end up loving it! You are showing value for something he enjoys!
3.Say “Thank you for____”. Maybe your husband filled your gas tank, took a child to school for you, cleaned the kitchen or said “You look nice.” Call attention to the kindness & cultivate gratitude. (This is the game-changer! You’ll be astonished!) No one accidentally becomes grateful or loving. God wants to give us joy, peace, & sweet oneness as we seek to love our husbands well. Here, we can live out our faith. #intentionalwife #marriage#husband #love #romance #relationshipgoals #words #relationships#engaged #anniversary